Trying to Conceive? 7 Everyday Habits That May Be Working Against You

Trying to conceive can make you pay close attention to ovulation, periods, food, and lifestyle. While many factors affecting fertility cannot be controlled, some everyday habits may make conception more difficult or reduce your chances of getting pregnant.

This does not mean that a single unhealthy meal, late night, or stressful day will prevent pregnancy. Fertility is influenced by several factors, including age, ovulation, sperm health, medical conditions, and reproductive health. However, making a few sensible lifestyle changes can support overall fertility and improve your chances of conceiving.

Here are seven everyday habits shared by Dr Chetna Jain, Director - Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Cloudnine Group of Hospitals, Gurgaon, that are worth looking at when you are trying to conceive.

1. Having Sex Only On One ‘Fertile Day’

One common mistake is focusing too heavily on a single day of ovulation. The fertile window actually includes several days because sperm can survive in the female reproductive tract for several days, while the egg remains available for fertilisation for a much shorter period after ovulation.

Having sex regularly during the fertile window can improve the chance of sperm being present when ovulation occurs.

If your cycles are irregular, predicting ovulation purely from a calendar can also be difficult. Ovulation predictor kits, changes in cervical mucus, and other fertility-tracking methods may provide additional clues.

2. Smoking Or Being Around Cigarette Smoke

Smoking can affect fertility and reproductive health in both women and men. In women, it may affect the ovaries and reproductive system, while smoking in men can affect sperm quality.

Second-hand smoke is also best avoided when trying to conceive, according to a study published in the journal ‘Reproduction & Fertility’.

If you smoke, stopping is one of the most useful changes you can make for your reproductive health and for a future pregnancy. Your partner should also consider quitting because sperm health plays an important role in conception.

3. Drinking Too Much Alcohol

Regular or heavy alcohol consumption can affect fertility. It can also become particularly important once pregnancy occurs, because alcohol can affect a developing baby.

If you are trying to conceive, reducing alcohol intake is a sensible step. Once pregnancy is possible, avoiding alcohol is recommended.

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4. Getting Too Little Sleep

Sleep is often overlooked when couples are trying to conceive. According to a study published in the journal ' BMC Women's Health', sleep disturbances can have a significant impact on female infertility.

Constantly sleeping for too few hours can affect overall health, mood, and daily functioning.

There is no magic number of hours that guarantees pregnancy, but maintaining a regular sleep routine can support general well-being.

Try to keep consistent sleeping and waking times, particularly if late nights have become a routine.

Good sleep is also useful for managing stress and maintaining healthy habits during the months of trying.

5. Living With Constant High Stress

Stress is often blamed for infertility, but the relationship is more complicated. Having a stressful day does not mean you will not conceive.

However, prolonged stress can affect sleep, appetite, relationships, and sexual desire. In some women, significant stress may also interfere with the hormones involved in ovulation.

The answer is not to worry about being stressed. Instead, focus on manageable ways to look after yourself, such as regular physical activity, adequate sleep, relaxation exercises, spending time outdoors, or talking to someone you trust.

6. Ignoring Your Weight And Physical Activity

According to a study published in the journal 'Fertility and Sterility', preconception weight loss can have a positive influence on pregnancy outcomes.

Being significantly underweight or overweight can affect ovulation and reproductive health in some women. Weight can also influence sperm health in men.

At the same time, extreme dieting or very intense exercise may interfere with menstrual cycles in some women.

The goal is not a particular body shape or rapid weight loss. A balanced diet, regular movement and a healthy weight for your individual circumstances are more useful goals.

If your periods are irregular or have stopped, speak to a doctor rather than trying a restrictive diet on your own.

Also Read: Why Am I Not Getting Pregnant Despite Having Regular Periods?

7. Using Lubricants Without Checking Whether They Are Sperm-Friendly

Some couples may not realise that certain ordinary lubricants can interfere with sperm movement. This does not mean that using lubricant automatically prevents pregnancy, but some products may not be ideal when you are trying to conceive.

If you need a lubricant, look for one specifically labelled as fertility-friendly or sperm-friendly. If you are unsure, ask your doctor or pharmacist.

What About Caffeine?

Caffeine does not need to be completely eliminated for most people trying to conceive.

However, very high caffeine intake is best avoided. Coffee, tea, energy drinks, cola, and some supplements can all contribute to your daily caffeine intake.

Once pregnant, recommended caffeine limits become particularly important, so it can be useful to become aware of your intake while trying.

When To See a Doctor?

Lifestyle changes can support fertility, but they cannot overcome every fertility problem. If you have been trying without success, it is worth speaking to a healthcare professional at the appropriate time rather than assuming that your lifestyle is the problem.

Medical advice may be particularly important if you have very irregular or absent periods, severe period pain, a history of pelvic problems, previous reproductive problems or concerns about your partner's fertility.

For couples where the woman is under 35, fertility evaluation is generally recommended after 12 months of regular unprotected sex without pregnancy. For women aged 35 or older, seeking advice after six months is generally recommended. Earlier assessment may be appropriate when there are known fertility concerns.

Final Word

Getting pregnant is not about following a perfect routine. Many healthy couples need several months to conceive, and pregnancy cannot always be controlled through lifestyle changes alone. However, instead of trying to change everything at once, focus on a few realistic habits that you and your partner can maintain consistently. Fertility is a shared journey, and both partners' health matters.