Our lives are spent seeking for answers, answers that will keep our mind and soul happy. Existence is a very mundane practice, and all our lives we strive to be happy. But happiness is misunderstood, people tend to believe that enough money and power is happiness. But for a woman, happiness can also mean watching her little baby smile. Do you know what the secrets of being a happy lady are?
Popular social networking sites have a certain meme that says, “Happiness is…” which is then filled with small instances from life. For example, “Happiness is throwing things at your best friend”, and so on. The world is today coming to terms with real happiness, that which is found in the sunny haze of early spring, or simply in your favourite song. The social media is vibrant with idealism, and the concept of happiness is also being challenged here. Women have always been viewed as that half of the world for whom sorrow is an inherent quality, and of course, the tyranny of men has much to do with this. But then again, much of that can be changed, and it is actually changing in the modern world. Women today are happier because they do not allow negativity to affect them because they do not allow someone else to govern their lives. Here are some secrets of such happy ladies.
Women most times are unhappy because they do not have the confidence to be the lone ranger. No one, of course, likes to be alone, but being self-dependant is very important. Those women who are happy and are doing well do not rely or lean on someone for support. Because when that wall gives way, you will fall, and you will fall pretty badly. Believing in yourself is one of the most important lessons to learn when you want to be happy. Allowing someone to make you unhappy is just not right. Believe that no one can affect your life so much that you will fall into an endless abyss of sorrow.
With all due respect for ‘auld lang syne’, you cannot look back and brood. Happy women are in a state of mind that allows them to seek the road that is lying ahead. Only the road lying ahead can bring you joy, even if there are temporary troubles waiting. While the truth is that there would definitely be some drawbacks and painstaking times, but a happy person is she who chews these times and spits them out at the right time. It is just about moving ahead and seeking the new. New is good.
You were sure created by your loving parents, but you have to design your own life. Happy women design their lives in accordance with them. Shut your eyes and picture your happy place, and think what would make it happy? If you see a sunlight greenhouse overlooking a valley with you inside it watering plants and surrounded by daisies and roses, then let it be. Make it come true in your own small way, realise what makes you happy and do it. A happy woman is she who has her happy place to run to.
The human mind is a very interesting part of the body, and it has the ability to store memories. You have the most dreadful and the most beautiful memories there in your mind. Hold the sweet memories inside your brain and savour them later. Remember the smell of yesteryear, the times with a lost someone, or the childhood playmate without whom your days didn’t seem to move. You just need to be careful not to overanalyze and lose its charm, simply appreciate these memories from time to time. For this, you will require to set aside some time for yourself and think over your life and times. Always select the happy thoughts as they reflect on your face and makes you glow with joy.
The most important thing to do is to appreciate the small things in life. Look around you and you will see that women who are happy know how to appreciate the small things in life. They may have a big pay scale, but at the end of the day, it is the nice cup of tea and their favourite book that brings a smile on their face. Seek pleasure in the small things, like the chirping birds that sit on your window sill, you have to notice all the unseen little things that are happening around you.
A woman plays many different roles in her lifetime, and it is only natural that there would be many hassles. But happiness is not something that you can touch and feel, as happiness is felt within. Happiness is, knowing that you are reading the last line of this article. Stay happy.
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