How to handle Abusive Relationships or Coping with Abusive relationships
Healthy Relationships Need Respect and Trust
Do you feel constrained in your relationship with your date? Is your friend or date constantly worried about what you are doing at every moment of the day? Does your date or friend have endless questions about how you spent your time? Does your date want to control all your time and movement?
If the answer is yes then you are probably in an abusive relationship. If you take this for intense love, care or concern then you are wrong. The basis of any healthy relationship is respect, trust, and consideration. At times a relationship may lack these qualities — and may become abusive. In fact abusive relationships are not uncommon.
What Is Abuse?
You can be abused physically, emotionally, or sexually.
- Physical abuses include slapping, hitting, and kicking and can occur in both love relationships and friendships.
- Emotional abuse includes teasing, bullying, humiliating or putting down, threats, intimidation, and betrayal. As it does not have any visible effects or scar it can be difficult to recognize. It can really hurt and leave long lasting emotional effects.
- Both guys and girls can be sexually abused. If you do not want sexual relation with a person and are forced into it, it is wrong.
The basis of any relationship should be love, respect, trust and consideration for the other person. If you are not comfortable in a relationship and are being abused physically, emotionally or sexually consider ending the relationship.
Signs of Abusive Relationships
Some important signs that indicate that you are probably in an abusive relationship include when your partner;
- physically harms you like slaps, pushes, grabs, shakes, kicks or punches
- wants to control your life, like--- what you wear, who you go out with, what you say or should eat
- Makes fun of you or humiliates you, makes you feel worthless or useless but profess that he or she loves you all the time
- threatens you, tries to harm you, threatens of self-harm, if you end the relationship
- twists the things in such a way that he or she makes you feel you are to blame for everything
- wants to know where you are at all times, what you are doing, why did you go out with a certain person
- does not like you to spend time with your friends, or do things that interest you
- forces you for sexual relationship when you are not comfortable with it
If you do not feel comfortable in a relationship or friendship, then probably it is not right. Trust and follow your intuition. If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't.
Signs That a Friend Is Being Abused
Some other signs that indicate that your friend is probably being abused by his or her partner are;
- baffling or mysterious injuries, bruises, black eyes, broken bones, sprains, or marks
- feeling of constant or excessive guilt or shame for no obvious reason
- unexplained withdrawal from friends and family
- unexplained or baffling evasion or avoidance of school or social events
If you feel your friend is being abused try and talk to him or her. People who are being abused become insecure and are usually afraid to tell about it to parents as they fear that they will be pressurized to end the relationship. Some even start believing that it is probably their fault —and that they "asked for it" or that deserve it. But it is important to make them realize that nobody deserves abuse and that it is not his or her fault. The person who abuses is the only person who is at fault and has a serious problem and needs professional help. Be patient, loving, and understand...
Source: Onlymyhealth editorial team Jun 07, 2011
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