Meghan Markle Reveals How She Coped with 2020 Miscarriage: “You Have To Learn To Detach”

Meghan Markle recently opened up about her 2020 miscarriage on her podcast, ‘Confessions of a Female Founder’. She shared how she learned to “detach from the thing you have so much hope for” while grieving. The Duchess of Sussex, 43, discussed the emotional toll of balancing personal loss with public life, emphasising the universal struggle of letting go after pregnancy loss. 

Speaking with Reshma Saujani, founder of Girls Who Code, Markle reflected on the “‘unbearable grief’ she experienced and the societal pressure to perform through pain. Now a mother of two, she also highlighted the bittersweet joys of parenting and the need for open conversations about miscarriage.

Coping with Loss: Meghan's Journey

MEGHAN Markle has bravely opened up about her miscarriage and said she "learned to detach" in her new podcast. Reshma Saujani featured on the latest episode of Confessions of a Female Founder.
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In July 2020, Meghan suffered a miscarriage while caring for her son Archie at her California home. She described collapsing to the floor during a cramp, realising she was losing her second child. Her New York Times essay later revealed the isolation of grief: “Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few”. 

In a recent comment, she said, “I think in some parallel way, you have to learn to detach from the thing that you have so much promise and hope for.” During her podcast, she stressed the importance of “detaching” from expectations, a sentiment echoed by experts who advise allowing oneself to grieve without self-blame.

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Balancing Motherhood and Grief

Now raising Archie, 5, and Lilibet, 3, Markle admitted, “I love being a mom so much. It’s my favourite thing.” Yet, she acknowledged the exhaustion of parenting and the guilt of needing breaks. Her candidness about scrolling through her children’s photos during downtime resonated with many parents navigating similar emotional conflicts. 

The Pressure to ‘Perform’

In the conversation, Markle and Saujani also addressed societal expectations for women to prioritise careers while managing private struggles. Saujani, who endured serial miscarriages while leading Girls Who Code, praised Meghan’s insights as ‘reading my diaries.’ Their conversation underscored the need to reject the myth that motherhood and ambition are mutually exclusive.

Meghan acknowledged how public life amplified her grief: “When you’re in the spotlight, there’s no pause button for pain.” She described feeling pressured to “smile through events” while privately mourning. It is a struggle familiar to many women who juggle professional obligations with personal loss.

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Takeaway

Meghan Markle’s decision to share her miscarriage story and the raw, ongoing process of healing sheds light on a pain millions endure silently. By framing grief as a journey of ‘detaching from hope’ without abandoning self-compassion, she offers a blueprint for those navigating similar losses. Her message is clear: Healing isn’t linear, but solidarity and openness can transform isolation into collective strength. As conversations around pregnancy loss evolve, stories like Meghan’s remind us that vulnerability, not silence, paves the way for progress.