To see the girl of your dreams with someone else is sad for sure, it is a definite disaster which you probably were not prepared for. So now how can you possibly date her, someone who is apparently in love and has a boyfriend?
The good news is that trying to date a woman who has a boyfriend is not too different from trying to date a regular girl. The laws of the game are same in both the cases, only you may have to try a little harder in this case, and you have to be more sincere than you would usually be with a regular girl. But that is not to say that it is difficult, it is just a tad bit more complicated than you would want. When wanting to date a girl who has a boyfriend, you have to understand that there is a right time and the right place; it is all about striking the iron when it is hot.
Stay in constant touch with her. There are ups and downs in a relationship and she might be at her low at times due to a tiff with her existing boyfriend. This is where you come in. Comfort her intimately and constantly show gestures of care. Otherwise also, frequent her place to work or accompany her during the least expected hours for brief shopping sessions or a coffee. But be careful of taking the hints from her. If she does not want you anywhere near her then take the hint and leave. Too much nagging can put her off or annoy her.
You have to get into a private zone with her where only the two of you exist, away from friends and colleagues. This is important so that you can stand on her hallowed ground as that one man who is somewhat special. She should want to chat with you and this is how you get to know each other well. But here comes in your sincerity, you do not be flirty, at least not over flirtatious. Maintain your innocence and make her your friend, but do not fall in the trap of the friend zone.
A very important trait, listening is a virtue and you have to make sure that you are at the top of your game. Be a patient listener in the beginning and later use this as a way to make her understand the negatives about her existing boyfriend. Women while being true to a relationship often ignore minor tiffs or deny terrible fights in order to move on. Remind her of such instances in a non-aggressive manner. Highlight what she is lacking in this current relationship and what she can get from you. Also, women like men who listen to what they have to say.
It all finally comes down to this of course, you have to make her like you, or else everything else is futile. Only when she likes you can you make your move on her, look for hints that tell you that she likes you. If she goes out of her way to talk to you, she stays online to chat with you, she is smiling when she sees you, she tells you her relationship problems, she compliments you, and the best part is if she is flirting with you! You nailed it.
Finally you have to let it out, and the only way you can do this is in plain words. But before that you have to scrutinize her position. Is she doing better with her boyfriend, or is she still having a hard time? If she is doing well then you could wait for some more time, stick around and have patience and show her what a gem you are. If not, then tell her that you want to make her happy, she does not have to be sad anymore, ever again. Tell her that you love her and that you want her. Watch her reaction.
Finally, you have to realise whether she is worth all the trouble or not. If you think she is, then you could love her forever without her knowing, but that will not make you a lover, it will make you a fool.
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