What's Helicopter Parenting and its Pitfalls
- Do you try to get involved in your kid’s life but end up invading their personal space?
- You might be a helicopter parent
- A helicopter parent is a type of parent who gets overly involved in their child’s life
Do you try to get involved in your kid’s life but end up invading their personal space? If this happens to you more than often, then you might be turning into a ‘helicopter parent’. A helicopter parent is a type of parent who gets overly involved in their child’s life. We know that you want the best for your child, every parent does but sometimes it gets too much for the child.
If you hover all the time – keep track of what your kid is doing, always following them around, directing their behaviour and giving them no time for themselves, then we hate to break it to you, but you are a ‘helicopter parent’.
Pitfalls of Being a Helicopter Parent
You might have a good intention when you start off, and there is no harm in keeping a check on your child but being too involved in their lives can lead to some problems in your relationship. Here are some problems that might occur:
No Confidence or Self-esteem
If you control everything that your child does, then they might get dependent on you and won’t be able to handle things on their own. They will lose their confidence, and it might even damage their self-esteem.
Lack of Coping Skills
Helicopter parents often try to solve all of their kids’ problems. If there are no problems left, how will your kids learn to solve them? It is important for them to experience loss, disappointment and failure, and to cope with them on their own. It is valuable for them to develop coping skills to overcome challenges in the long run.
Helicopter parenting does not allow children to be independent. They become so used to their parents helping out with everything that they become completely dependent on them. It doesn’t seem right if a 20- year-old needs his mother to wake him up every morning or do his laundry so that he does not get late for college.
Bad Life Skills
Helicopter parents micromanage everything their kid does from tying their shoelace to monitoring their lifestyle. When your child has grown up and is capable of doing things on his own, then you should let them it. This might seem petty, but these lessons can benefit your child in the long run. The negative feedback of life will teach them right from wrong and make them confient.
Intervenes with Parent-child Relationship
Also read: How to Be a Parent of an Adult Children
As a parent, your actions might spoil your relationship with your child. Continuous interference in your child’s life can hamper your relationship. Your child might get irritated and might even start hiding things from you. This will only push your child away from you.
How to Stop Being a Helicopter Parenting?
As parents, it is difficult to keep an eye on what your children are doing without smothering them or inhibiting their ability to learn important skills. Allow them to stumble, experience disappointment, learn to handle physical and mental stress and make them work out things on their own. This will help your kid become self-confident and strong.
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Source: Onlymyhealth editorial team Aug 24, 2018
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