It can be overwhelming to watch someone you care about struggle with feelings of hopelessness or despair. Often, the signs of suicidal thoughts are subtle and easily overlooked, making it crucial to understand the warning signals. Whether it’s changes in mood, behaviour, or even the things they say, recognising these signs could make a life-saving difference. We spoke to our expert Archana Singhal, Counsellor and Family Therapist, Founder, Mindwell Counsel, Delhi, who listed the warning signs of suicide and how to support someone dealing with suicidal thoughts.
Signs Of Suicide To Watch Out For
According to the recent World Health Organization data, each year, more than 7 lakh people die by suicide, with many more attempting to do so. Suicide affects individuals across all stages of life and, in 2021, was the third leading cause of death globally among those aged 15–29.
Behavioural Changes
The most common warning signs involve a radical behaviour change. Examples include a withdrawal from social activities, losing interest in hobbies, or an obvious decline in performance at school or work.
Other warning signs include involvement in risk-taking or self-destructive behaviours, such as substance abuse or reckless driving. People may also begin giving away valued possessions and make sudden changes in wills or life insurance. They may even say their goodbyes.
Verbal Cues
Most suicidal people talk about their feelings before the suicide, but these are often ignored or downplayed. “Statements like “I won't be able to take it much longer,” “I wish I could disappear,” or “Life doesn't have meaning anymore,” should never be taken lightly. Even seemingly casual comments about death or dying may indicate serious suicidal thoughts,” warned Singhal.
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Emotional Indicators
Various emotional changes are the second most important thing a caregiver has to monitor. A depressed person showing prolonged sadness, irritability, or a letdown and worthless feelings would be very indicative. “Sudden mood swings, especially being so calm or happy after depression, can be a warning sign; this is because such a person might have already decided to end their life,” added Singhal.
Physical Signs
Changes in sleep, such as not being able to sleep or sleeping too much, and changes in appetite or significant weight can also be warning signs. Unexplained aches, pains, or fatigue may also mirror the physical consequences of emotional stress.
Understanding these warning signs is the first step in providing help. “If you notice any of these behaviours, it's important to take them seriously and reach out to the person in a compassionate, non-judgmental way. Encouraging them to talk about their feelings and seek professional help immediately can be life-saving,” highlighted Singhal.
Practical Guide For Supporting A Loved One Dealing With Suicidal Thoughts
Supporting a loved one with suicidal ideation requires sensitivity and is quite a critical undertaking; you may be in a position to play a key role in helping your loved one through the darkest moments of their life. Singhal shares a practical guide on how to offer effective support:
Open the Conversation
You may say, "I have been noticing lately that you are feeling down. I am concerned about you". Make sure they feel comfortable opening up by assuring them that you want to know what's bothering them and that you will not judge them. Do not be prepared to try to offer solutions right away nor minimise their feelings with "It will get better" or "You're just having a bad day". Validate their feelings by acknowledging the pain and how serious it is.
Be Present
Sometimes the best that one can do is be present. Being there physically when possible, or regular phone/text check-ins. “Knowing someone cares and is available can be a powerful comfort. When possible, encourage them to stay with someone they can trust or invite them to stay with them during critical periods,” added Singhal.
Encourage Professional Help
Encourage them to seek professional help, such as therapy or counselling. Offer to assist them in finding resources or accompany them to appointments if they feel anxious about going alone. It's common for the initial suggestion to be met with resistance. However, if they are at risk of immediate harm, do not hesitate to call emergency services or a crisis hotline on their behalf.
Create a Safety Plan
Participate in the development of a safety plan that may include removal of access to means, identifying triggers, or a list of contacts who can provide immediate support. This needs to include coping strategies for suicidal urges, like distraction techniques, grounding exercises, or a focus on reasons to stay alive.
Follow-up
Supporting a loved one with suicidal thoughts is not a one-time act. It is important to check up on them regularly, even if the crisis seems to have passed. In this way, they feel less isolated and more connected.
Take Care of Yourself
“It is important to be there for your loved one; however, do not forget about yourself. Since supporting someone through such challenging times can get emotionally exhausting, do not forget to have your support ready and seek professional help if necessary,” emphasised Singhal.
[Disclaimer: This article contains information provided by an expert and is for informational purposes only. Hence, we advise you to consult your own professional if you are dealing with any health issues to avoid complications.]