Ever Feel Like Shutting Down Mid-Conversation? You Could Be Experiencing Social Burnout!

You are having dinner with your friends at an a la carte eat all you can place, the vibe is fun, and the conversations are so interesting, you would almost consider staying until late, but at some point during the conversation, you begin feeling low, almost as though your ‘social battery’ has drastically gone down, leaving you with no energy to engage. Your replies go from “Woah, tell me more!” to “Hmm, Oh, I see, Okay.” Your ultimate aim now is to run back home as soon as possible.

With the world being so hyper-connected, even small social tasks may seem daunting to some. If you’ve ever found yourself zoning out, feeling mentally exhausted, or even wanting to shut down during a conversation, you may be experiencing social burnout. This phenomenon is more common than you might think and can affect anyone, whether you’re an introvert or extrovert. 

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What Is Social Burnout? 

Social burnout might not be talked about as much as regular burnout, but it’s just as real and can hit even harder, especially if you’re usually the “social one” in your circle. While typical burnout comes from work or constant hustle, social burnout sneaks in when you’re overwhelmed by endless plans, messages that need replies, and the pressure to stay “available” for everyone. The entire process unfolds gradually.

It stems from heightened societal expectations, the need to fulfil every social obligation and to be there. Research suggests that for some people, social interactions lasting more than three hours can lead to social fatigue post socialisation.

Why Do We Feel Socially Burnt Out?

Engaging In Over-The-Top Social Commitments

Do you find yourself saying yes to everything just to keep up? Maybe it’s the back-to-back gatherings or another ‘quick’ catch-up. It might feel great at first, but all those commitments can add up fast, leaving you with zero time to recharge. You might not feel it piling up initially, but gradually it will begin affecting you. No matter how major the FOMO may be, stop for a while and prioritise your tasks first. The anxiety of going about with your social lives with your task trackers looming on your heads like swords is not a good idea. Prioritise and communicate the same to your social circle.

Diluting Boundaries In Personal Relationships

If you’re the friend who is always there, anytime and anywhere, drawing the line can be difficult. Being supportive is important, but when you’re constantly giving without protecting your own space, it can leave you feeling worn out and emotionally stranded. Build healthy boundaries, you’ll be able to help those you care for only if you are at your best. 

Trying To Stay Socially Relevant

The pressure to stay in the know, keep up with everyone’s updates, see who is getting married, who just posted their job update or simply to be part of every conversation can be a real energy drain. It’s like you’re running a never-ending race to stay relevant, but sometimes it feels like no matter what you do, you’re just falling behind. These feelings gradually creep up and evoke feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. 

Inability To Say No

If you’re someone who finds it hard to say no, you’re definitely not alone. It’s tough to turn down plans, especially when you care about the people involved. At times, we feel pressured to say so solely to avoid offending the other person as we feel that every expectation related to us is essential. But saying yes all the time can start to chip away at your energy and mental space, leaving your social battery at an all-time low.

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How To Deal With It? 

Acknowledge Your Feelings And Set Boundaries

Recognize that social burnout is valid. Accepting your need for rest is the first step toward recovery. Politely decline invitations or limit your participation in social events. Let others know when you need time for yourself.

Schedule Alone Time And Practise Self-Care

Dedicate time to recharge. Engage in activities you enjoy alone, such as reading, journaling, or walking. Ensure you’re taking care of your basic needs: eat healthy, exercise, and get enough sleep to rejuvenate your body and mind.

Engage in Relaxing Activities And Minimise Digital Overload

Try meditation, yoga, or deep breathing exercises to calm your mind and reduce stress. Limit your time on social media or group chats to avoid feeling overwhelmed by constant connectivity.

Seek Professional Help

If social burnout persists or begins affecting your mental health, we advise you to reach out to a therapist or counsellor for guidance.

Bottomline

Even though not everyone goes through social burnout, it’s something that can happen to any of us if we’re not careful about setting boundaries. Protecting yourself from social burnout isn’t about isolating yourself or ignoring loved ones. It's about making sure that your social time leaves you feeling fulfilled rather than drained. Social burnout is your mind’s way of reminding you that you don’t always have to be available or say yes to every invite. Listening to that reminder can make a world of difference in keeping you feeling balanced and connected to others, with your social batteries fully charged.