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How To Set Healthy Boundaries With Your Kids

It is important that you set boundaries with your kids to raise them right with great values and discipline. Here is how to do it.

Chanchal Sengar
Written by: Chanchal SengarUpdated at: Feb 08, 2023 12:54 IST
How To Set Healthy Boundaries With Your Kids

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As a parent, sometimes the biggest challenge you face is disciplining your kids. It’s not easy to balance enforcing rules while ensuring your children feel respected and loved. One of the best ways to ensure that everyone in the family is happy and healthy is by setting healthy boundaries with your kids.Healthy boundaries are limits that help you establish a sense of safety, responsibility, respect, and security between yourself and your child. They keep both parties accountable for their actions, protect each other’s physical and emotional well-being, and provide structure, so everyone knows what behaviours are expected. In this article, Dr. Chandni Tugnait, M.D. (Alternative Medicines), Psychotherapist, Life Coach, NLP Expert, Healer, Founder & Director - Gateway of Healing shares some ways to set healthy boundaries with your kids.

Letting Your Kids Know What is Acceptable Behaviour

The first step in setting healthy boundaries with your kids is letting them know what behaviour is acceptable in certain situations. You should communicate these expectations clearly and calmly, without judgment or criticism. It is also helpful to provide examples so they understand what you expect from them better. Additionally, if your child has done something wrong, explain why their behaviour was unacceptable, so they know the consequences of their actions going forward. 

How To Set Healthy Boundaries With Kids

Being Consistent With Rules and Expectations

When setting boundaries with your kids, you must remain consistent with rules and expectations. Enforce the same rules every time and do not give in when asked for special exceptions or favours. If you want your children to respect your authority as a parent, they must know there will be unfavourable consequences for misbehaving or breaking the rules. This doesn’t mean punishing them for every little thing - sometimes simply reminding them of the rules is enough - but it does mean taking action when necessary so they understand there are limits on their behaviour. 

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Encouraging Independence and Responsibility

How To Set Healthy Boundaries With Your Kids

When setting boundaries with your kids, it’s important to promote independence and responsibility as part of their development. Give them opportunities to make decisions independently and allow them some freedom within reason (e.g., going out with friends after school). When possible, provide positive reinforcement instead of punishment if they make good choices or do something well; this will help foster good habits rather than negative ones. Additionally, teach them emotional mastery & problem-solving skills so they can handle difficult situations independently in the future instead of relying solely on you for direction and guidance all the time.

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Having healthy boundaries doesn’t mean you must become a strict disciplinarian or be overly restrictive with your kids. Instead, it’s about teaching them responsibility without taking away their independence or freedom. Setting these limits will also help them learn how to make good decisions when no one is watching. You can give leverage wherever needed to make children understand that you are always there for them when they need you. This will help strengthen your bond and make kids more fond of your parenting and approach. Eventually, this would help kids become more disciplined and responsible.