Tips to tame your temper and save your realtionship

By  ,  Onlymyhealth editorial team
Dec 05, 2016

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  • Venting extreme anger can damage any relationship.
  • Refrain from saying anything once you are angry.
  • Practice forget and forgive.

No matter how justified the reasons might be, the moment your temper flies, it is bound to create to a negative repercussions for your partner. Venting extreme anger can damage any relationship. Most often, anger is an impulse which subsides with time but leaves behind ample damage. There is little you can do by repenting over it.


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Here’s what you should do to control anger, before it starts controlling you.


The task of controlling anger might seem like a difficult one, it could be approached quite positively. Start off with modest measure – acknowledge. Acknowledge that you have to do something about it.


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Start counting

You might have heard this a thousand times over, but it surely works and hence remains a prominent anger management tip. The moment you fly into a rage stop and count from one to ten. The intensity of rage is bound to subside.


Withdraw yourself

When the situation is bad enough for you to get extremely angry about, just leave it for later. Simply leave the venue and the situation and withdraw for the moment. Detaching yourself will provide you with the time to think and evaluate your behaviour. You are bound to behave rationally, once the initial tempers are cooled off.


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Watch your words

Refrain from saying anything once you are angry. You are surely to regret it later, so it is better not to talk at the moment. Keep silent for as long as you can even if somebody else is provoking you to say something.


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Get moving

Not only will it keep you physically fit but it will also help you to manage your emotions better. Exercises are known to release happy hormones which make you feel good about yourself and others. In a fit of rage, the best thing to do would be to head for a walk and cool your nerves.

Forgive and forget

Nursing grudges will only strain the equation you have with your partner. If you have withdrawn from a situation which is particularly unpleasant, learn to erase it permanently from your memory and carry on. Dwell upon the positive aspects of a relationship rather than the negative ones.

If you can abide by the above, you will surely enjoy a sweet and congruous relationship with your partner.



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  • anurag18 Sep 2013

    I am a 22 year old boy. I have a very short temper, which used to make me angry very soon. And due to this anger many unusual things happen with me. Please, help me to get out of this.

  • Timothy 15 May 2013

    I'll try my best, and i try to follow your tips.Thank you very much

  • Nitesh10 May 2013

    I am very short tempered kind of person and I am looking for ways to control anger. I have already joined yoga classes and listen to soft music. This is not all, I have also tried counting therapy, but it didn't work for me. Is there any other way of controlling anger? I have lost my friends because of this nature. Please help.

  • Aranya17 Apr 2013

    A lot of couples fail to control anger and end up fighting for petty issues. This leads them to their relationship being ruined. It is important to know how to control anger in a relationship and I glad this website took the initiative to put light on this issue.

  • tiya08 Mar 2013

    I had anger for many years but after I read this,I praticed it.It really works.

  • panneer selvam31 Aug 2012

    its very useful

  • Ryan 17 Jun 2012

    I have had anger issues for the last 5 years. I take meds for seizures and almost all side effects have happened. The one I hated the most was the constant lashing out at my wife of 9 years together for 13 and both my kids. I always knew that when I feel angry I should distance myself from them.I love my family to death and regret every minute of what I put them through. Being on these meds I have done so many things that I regret doing and didnt even know I did till after it happened.

  • alyss15 Mar 2012

    These tips always seemed to help me with my anger issues.

  • Chris Colby05 Jan 2012

    I love my girlfriend very much but sometimes I lash out and it tends to be at her. I would never be abusive at all that's not me. It's just that I tend to just get angry and it is turned towards her. It honestly isn't fair to her at all. I just need to figure out how to not lash put at her and get mad at her for no reason

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