There’s a simple answer to this question. It is ‘yes’. There’s a slightly more complicated explanation attached to that answer, though. And while we know that you might disagree (whether you’re the woman going through menopause or her hapless spouse), do bear with us for a few more paragraphs and we’ll tell you how and why your marriage will come just fine through this menopause.
Essentially, menopause is the time in a woman’s life when her ovaries begin to reduce their output of oestrogen. The menstrual periods become irregular and finally stop. The sudden decrease in oestrogen is responsible for most of the symptoms of menopause; the physical symptoms like hot flashes, night sweats and feeling bloated and all the emotional trauma, the crankiness, the depression, everything. During this time, it is natural for a woman to feel unattractive, ugly and unwanted. A lowering of sex drive too could be one of the symptoms. Spouses often tend to feel rejected and unwanted during this time, as they tend to often get caught at the wrong end of the emotional rollercoaster. The simplest way to deal with this is to first realise that it is not your fault. Say it again. It is not your fault. Do it again, a few more times. Feel better?
While there really is no medical ‘fix’ or magic ‘cure’ for the symptoms of menopause, it helps when both partners recognise the need for empathy during such a time. The first step, of course, is to understand the changes going on in her body. The next step is to realise that as the spouse you are not expected to fix it or cure it. Just be there for her. And as the woman, understand that this time can be as trying and confusing for your spouse as much as it is for you. With a little understanding, and a little empathy, your marriage will not only survive menopause, it will come through stronger and better.
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