Of all the relationships in our life, the most complicated and the most beautiful one is the one that we share with our spouse. That is the one in which both partners are equal in every respect, and the relationships that work are in which both people realise and recognise this essential fact. Helping the relationship mature and maintaining the equanimity of the relationship always requires not just work by both parties involved in the relationship, but also a commitment to not walk away at times of crisis.
The cornerstone of a romantic relationship is communication. The success of a relationship is usually easily measured by the amount and quality of communication between the two people in the relationship. When disagreements begin, it is important to remember how much we love the other person, and push our ego to the side. When both people in the relationship can do this, it becomes easy to resolve differences and achieve a neutral middle ground. This is the secret of most successful relationships.
Intimacy, sexual or otherwise, can also be a great bonding mechanism for couples. Just knowing and feeling that there is someone who is as close to us as we ourselves are, and that we can always talk about anything under the sun with them is a shot in the arm for most of us. Going through life with no intimacy is the definition of lonely. And most lonely hearts out there would kill to have one person that they can be intimate – emotionally, physically, or even spiritually – with.
The important thing to remember while trying to help your relationship move forward is to feel important in each other’s life. Trust, respect, communication, love, and sharing are all important, and lead to reinforcing the feeling of our feelings, our opinions, our life making a difference our spouse. When we can convince each other of this, we have indeed gone a long way in helping each other and our relationship.