If you have been in a relationship for a couple of years or are living in with your partner, you may have experienced odd times in bed when you didn’t want to have sex even when you didn’t have it for weeks. The upside is that you have neither lost interest in sex nor have you lost interest in your partner, but there is something that is pulling you from having sex again. Sex therapists say that there are several emotional barriers to having good sex that range from poor body image to plain boredom. Here are ways to light the fire again.
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According to sex therapist, Joy Davidson, PhD, New York City, women who have had amazing sex are the ones who feel good about their body. Unfortunately, up to 80 per cent of women in the United States have a body image problem, which makes them feel bad about themselves in the bedroom. To make yourself feel good about your body, look first into the good areas and compliment yourself. If your eyes just don’t want to look at the beautiful you, watch other ladies at the gym and realise that there is no one ideal person with the perfect body. Perfection lies in the eyes of the beholder.
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Staying away from sex may be difficult, especially when your partner is only a few steps away, but something that is not easily available is something you want even more. If sex has become automatic in your romantic relationship, stop and take a pause. When you and your partner get on the bed to have sex, pay attention to the little teasing and caressing that leads up to sexual intercourse. Do not bring foreign thoughts into your bedroom to disturb you or your partner.
When you are stressed, it is almost impossible to be sexy. To ensure that your sexual drive doesn’t take a nosedive, recharge your sexual batteries by engaging in things that help you break free from the hectic life. When you feel relaxed and good about yourself, the urge to have sex will return.
For women to have sex with their husband/boyfriend they must feel connected and for men to feel close to their wife/girlfriend, they must have sex. Make the first move if you think your sex life has gone for a toss. Start by thanking your man or telling him how much you love him.
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