“You are forgiven but not forgotten"
Many a time there are situations, events, actions that emerge in a relationship and leave a permanent mark on both the people. We do forgive the other person, or move on from that particular point but in our hearts we are still affected by that thing.
Sometimes we do say things or act in a certain way that hurt the other person and no matter what we do to fix it; we cannot take our words or the hurt back. We have said it, it has been done now, the other person has received it, and it cannot be taken back. People say that time heals everything but the truth is, not everything is repairable.
Sometimes, some things just remain broken, to haunt us for our entire lifetimes. All we can do is move further, trying not to look back.
Here are the things that any of us cannot fix, so we better be careful.
Trust is something that is once broken, remains broken. The broken shards of trust can put permanent cut in a relationship. You might accept your partner back into the relationship but things won’t be same anymore. The one who has cheated will have to suffer the consequences of his or her wrong doings.
Sometimes we are just furious and in that furious state we say or do things that are hurtful. We unintentionally hurt our partner with harsh and unkind words or actions and after that point, it becomes a struggle for them to move on or forget. We just need to be a bit thoughtful while saying or doing anything because one harsh word from our mouth can permanently leave the other person hurt and sometimes in a worse state.
If you think your partner is at fault, don’t be at double fault by taking revenge. If she or he has done something and you decide to take revenge by doing the same to her and him, you are making a mistake. Sometimes words are enough to make the other person realise his or her mistake. This thing will only leave your relationship in a war like zone, where you choose to cut back.
When we are mad at someone, we sometimes hang up on them. We do not take their calls, do not respond to their texts, we refuse to meet them and all of these things are just leaving the other person in a vulnerable state. He or she is suddenly all alone. You are in a bad mood but the other person is suddenly helpless, lonely and is clueless. When you block the other person out, you basically give them a taste of what loneliness feels like or what their life might look like without you. Sometimes, you get back to your normal state but the other person is left shaken and in fear of losing you.
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