Why does one sided love hurt so much?
Ache of one sided love
Loving someone is indeed a beautiful feeling and certainly this is a feeling that you cannot control. You can fall for anyone; you can start liking anyone and this is what you call a crush. Now, you can have crush on anyone, you don’t have any control over who you fall in love with. When you have a crush on someone, you just fall in love with everything they do; you have this uncontrolled admiration for their every action and it so happens that you fail to see any flaws in them, you do not find anything wrong in them. However, having a crush on someone is often one sided. Yes, crushes are most of the time one sided, it’s just that you love them and don’t get the same feelings in return and sadly, there are times when your crush does not even know about your existence.
You not get what you wish for
When I was in college I had a friend, who loved a girl. He had a huge time crush on her. He used to bring her favorite chocolates; he would be always there to help her out with everything. My friend was mad about this girl, he liked her and it was apparent. We all knew about his love for her. At one point, it seemed like that the girl has also started having feelings for my friend because she would only go out with him, be it shopping or be it any party. However, one day my friend decided to tell her and propose her, she right away declined. She told him that she never thought of him that way and my friend was left with a broken heart. This is what happens in one-sided love stories, not always but most of the time, you don’t get the same feelings in return.
You kill your self-esteem
When you unknowingly start falling for someone and don’t get the same feelings in return or when you don’t get acknowledged for your efforts of wooing them, you get low on your self esteem. You try everything to impress her or him, you dress well, you try to look good, you try your best to get on their good books and when that doesn’t happen, you start losing confidence in yourself, you start losing your self esteem. Soon you start believing that the one you have been having a crush on, stealing glances at, is worth much more and you are not good enough.
Fall in self worth
When a person loves someone else with all his/ her heart and does not get anything in return, subconsciously he or she starts having low self worth. Unknowingly, he/she starts thinking that he is not worth loving and that is why he/she is not getting loved back. The sad truth is that we accept the love that we think we deserve while it is not true, if our crush is not returning the love or the same feelings. You always deserve more and better.
Seeing them with someone else
Well, indeed it is true that you cannot control the way someone feels about you and if your crush does not like you back, it isn’t their fault at all. Like you have a crush on someone, they might have a crush on someone else still the real heart ache is seeing your crush with someone else, seeing them loving someone else the way you wished they loved you. The heart ache is real when someone you love chooses someone else over you.