How do You Deal with Your Child?
Have you ever wondered how good you are as a parent? Do you ever worry about not being a good enough parent? Good parents teach their children the value of empathy, honesty, self-reliance, self-control, kindness, cooperation and cheerfulness and protect them against developing anxiety, depression, eating disorders, anti-social behavior, and substance abuse. If you believe you are lacking in imparting these qualities in your children, you may want to go through the following points to deal with your children well. Image Courtesy: Getty
Practice What You Preach
What you do matters because your children are watching you and they will follow you. Reacting to a moment can be dangerous when it comes to behavioural development in your children. A father who beats his wife can expect his child to do the same. Image Courtesy: Getty
Love is Never Enough, Other Things Are
If you think you are too loving and your love can spoil the child, it’s not true. Showing too much love cannot spoil a child; the by-products of love like leniency, lowered expectations, and material possessions can. Image Courtesy: Getty
Be Involved
You will have to rethink and rearrange your priorities to be an involved parent in your child’s life which can often be a time-taking and hard task. But do not mistake being involved with doing your child’s homework or correcting it. It means to be there for them mentally and physically for what your child needs to do. Image Courtesy: Getty
Keep Pace with Your Child’s Development
When children grow up, their age affects their behavior. They are driven by a sense of independence with every growing stage. Keep a check on your child’s behavior to detect if they are going through a problem. Once you think they have one, don’t push them to do better but seek diagnosis and treatment by a professional. Image Courtesy: Getty
Set Rules
Manage your child’s behavior while they are young so that they don’t have a hard time learning how to manage themselves when they get older and you aren’t around. The rules you teach your child will shape the rules they will apply to themselves. Image Courtesy: Getty
Encourage Independence in Your Child
It is as important to encourage independence in your child as it is to set limits for them. The former helps them develop a sense of self-direction while the latter will give them self-control. And they are going to need both these virtues to be successful in their lives. Image Courtesy: Getty
Be Consistent with Your Behaviour
When parents aren't consistent in their behaviour, children get confused. Identify your non-negotiables. If you don’t want your child to challenge your authority, base it on wisdom and not on power. Image Courtesy: Getty
Avoid Harsh Discipline
No circumstances justify your hitting your child. If you spank, hit, or slap your child, they are more likely to fight with other children, giving rise to a vicious cycle of harassment and behavioural problems. Image Courtesy: Getty
Explain Your Decisions
Usually parents over-explain their decisions to young children and under-explain to adolescents, which is the opposite of how it should be. What is obvious to you is not to your 15-year old. So, lay out your reasons and explanations out loud and clear. Image Courtesy: Getty
