Commitment Phobia:How to Stop and Deal with it
An individual is a commitment phobe when he has no intention of making a commitment to the person he loves. If you have been struggling to be in a relationship for long enough, you could be suffering from this type of phobia. So, let’s run a reality
Signs of a Commitment Phobe
An individual is a commitment phobe when he has no intention of making a commitment to the person he loves. Such a person has negative self-beliefs about commitment, love and relationship. He will seem to find reasons to back away and gradually sabotage the relationship and end it soon. If you have been struggling to be in a relationship for long enough, you could be a suffering from this type of phobia. So, let’s run a reality check.
A commitment phobe controls his schedules and when you do catch up with him, it is nothing more than a casual date. When he says that he adores you and wants to spend his life with you, you must make the next move. If things remain unchanged and you still don’t feature in his priorities, bid adieu!
No Introduction with Friends
If you haven’t met each other’s friends, family or co-workers after years of dating, you are not really becoming an integral part of his life. If he continues to do so i.e. keep you out of his plans with his gang and come up with excuses when you suggest hanging out with him and the rest of his friends, you need to take control of the situation.
He is charming and attentive when he is around. He has pursued you ardently until he won you over. But, you don’t really know him. It is only after some time that you start learning what his personality is like. If you are discovering a new trait one after another, you need to move on.
Last Minute Planning
A commitment phobe is uncomfortable when he takes charge of how the two of you will spend your time. He will make last-minute change in plans. He is not the right person for you if he is often late or cancels plans when there is something you want to do. If he feels loved in your company, he will spend time making plans and will see you more frequently.
How can you tell if someone is in love with you or not? He is surely not if he loves to play the blame games. He will make you feel crazy and find ways to blame you for any situation that is not turning out good. If you are often being told that “you are screwing it up”, he wants to back away. Get rid of them and that blame game for good.
Loss of Interest
Someone who truly loves you will want to talk about the relationship to work out the differences and celebrate similarities. On the other hand, a commitment phobe will lose interest when things get serious. He may come up to you with a petty reason to call it over.
If you are with someone who keeps home and life separately, tells you things about how his lifestyle is like that of a gypsy and never shows you his house, clearly he is not into you. He is just trying to avoid attachment. It becomes quite tricky for him when you ask him about his living space.
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