Facing the Truth
You've found your soul mate, you've been together for a while, and you feel like you're ready to take it to the next level. Maybe even marriage. Adorable! But how do you know when you’ve found him/her? And, more importantly, how do you know when you most definitely have not found him/her? The thing is, sometimes a red flag looks a little, well, gray. Here we point out some red flags you just can't ignore when you're in a relationship. Image Courtesy: Getty
“Who were You Talking to”
They eavesdrop on your conversations. They answer your cell phone when it rings. They look over your shoulder while you check your e-mail. These examples obviously go beyond the red-flag remark of “Who was that?” When jealousy manifests itself in a strident intrusion of your personal space, you need to be firm. Image Courtesy: Getty
“Don’t You Have Anything to Talk to Me About”
It’s cute and touching to receive calls for no other reason than to let you know that you’re being thought about. But more than, let’s say, three unnecessary phone calls a day (when the relationship is still relatively new) usually means you’re dating an obsessive freak. Get out before it’s too late. Image Courtesy: Getty
“Your Friends are Losers”
It should serve as a major red flag when you see that they like it when other people fail, particularly your friends. For some reason, an insane person will see this as some kind of validation of them choosing you and not someone else. Image Courtesy: Getty
“I Want to Come Along”
Not just one or two, all of your friends hate your partner. In fact, your friends have expressed their dislike for your girlfriend/boyfriend and now you do whatever it takes to make sure the two parties never set foot in the same room. Image Courtesy: Getty
“I am not in the Mood”
There are many reasons why a person may not seem interested in sex. They could be gay, they could be depressed, or they may be getting some on the side. Whatever the problem is, you'd better uncover it before making a commitment to this person because it's almost always an indication of a bigger issue. Image Courtesy: Getty
“I am Sad. Let Me Drink”
If your partner is moody and deals with disappointment and stress by sulking, or drinking, or eating a lot, this touches on two things crucial to a long-term relationship: emotional resilience and healthy coping mechanisms. If they let little things get to them every time, that's a problem. How your partner "does life" matters a lot. Image Courtesy: Getty
“The World Doesn’t Get Me”
If your partner is a loner with few friends who feels largely misunderstood by the world, it could undermine the relationship down the road. Everyone should have at least a couple long-term friends. That's a sign of loyalty and empathy. Your partner should be connecting with others in a positive way because it shows they can work as a team -- and marriage is a lot about teamwork. Image Courtesy: Getty
“We are One Unit”
Any statement your partner makes in the first person plural is a red-flag remark. This kind of a person wants to combine both of your personalities into one entity, causing you to become known as a collective unit rather than two individuals with separate opinions, feelings and desires. Image Courtesy: Getty
“I am Ill, Please Cancel Your Trip”
Attention-seekers make the worst kind of lovers for a number of reasons. Does your partner suddenly develop mysterious illnesses at the most inconvenient times, like just before you and your buddies are about to go away for a weekend camping trip? If you answered yes, then you may want to consider the fact that they’re nuts. Image Courtesy: Getty
