It often starts simply, even unknowingly. A woman logs in to play cards with others online or to converse about the latest trend. A man who can't sleep after a long tiring day checks out an online chat room and with no set intentions simply gets hooked.
Soon internet becomes an alluring medium for all of them! Chat rooms being the fastest mounting cause of relationships breakdown leading to virtual infidelity in recent times.
Infidelity, so to say, has always existed even before the advent of internet. However, surprising intimate conversations are now held with interesting strangers and no one would have a reason to be suspicious. After all, typing a response under the cloak of mystery is more of a fantasy than a real endeavour of sexual infidelity.
• Urban loneliness being on an all time high is the main reason why people think that they can create a substitute to their own identity.
• Many couples go through a phase of sexual boredom and the general belief is that virtual love and sex are potentially non risky.
• It is with the affordability of technology and ambiguity of identity that modern day romances have attained a new high.
Implicit infidelity goes far beyond the fabric of exchanging e-cards, expressing love via emoticons or getting the visual delight on web cams. It usually tends to question how ‘normal’ our social expectance of sexuality is.
People, who have the courage to cheat virtually, have a good chance of cheating in their real lives also, explains Dr Sanjay Pattanayak, psychiatrist, VIMHANS.
To get in touch with her long lost friends, Sakshi Rawal (name changed), registered herself on social networking sites but she found her old crushes even. "I started chatting with an acquaintance and ended up in the bed," the media professional said.
Not just emotional and social fences but internet infidelity has triumph over geographical restrictions too.
Many online lovers wrap up huge distances for a secret meeting and take the affiliation one step ahead without their spouses’ awareness. “The attraction of not seeing somebody plugs a sexual void in my otherwise mundane marital life,” confesses Navneet Kohli, a 32-year-old BPO executive.
If you feel your significant other is into online affair, don’t ignore the matter believing internet cheating is innocent and temporary. Talk it out!