There are many unfounded ideas that expecting couples may have about sex during pregnancy. Sex can be safely practiced if you have a complication-free pregnancy and take the required care which is necessary.
Many expecting couples are scared to indulge in intercourse in the fear that they will be hurting their baby or a miscarriage may occur. Unless, you are not indulging in rough lovemaking and you’re having a normal pregnancy, no harm can come to your baby. And early miscarriages occur due to chromosomal abnormalities or other development problems in the growing baby. The baby is surrounded and completely protected by the amniotic sac as well as the strong muscles of the uterus. For further protection there is a thick mucous plug that’s acts as a ‘stopper’ to the cervix and helps prevent infections. Sexual activity and penetration by the man’s penis does not affect the fetus in any way.
A normal pregnancy which is progressing smoothly allows you to practice sex during all stages of pregnancy. A normal pregnancy means that there is no risk of complications like miscarriage, preterm labor, vaginal bleeding or spotting, leakage of amniotic fluid, multiple pregnancy and placenta previa (where your placenta is partially or completely covering your cervical opening). Your obstetrician will be able to guide you and caution you to having safe sex or to completely abstain from it depending on your pregnancy status.
But apart from practicing safe sex what is more important is the fluctuating sexual desire an expectant mother may experience. While some pregnant women experience heightened sexual desire throughout the nine months, others have hardly any desire for physical intimacy. Sexual drive in women during pregnancy depends on her physical and emotional wellbeing. Pregnancy discomforts such as morning sickness, mood swings and expanding bellies can leave you feeling drained out completely which may affect your sexual drive.
The first trimester, with all its side-effects such as morning sickness, nausea and mood swings can make you exhausted, leaving you in no frame of mind to spark up your sex life during pregnancy.
The second trimester may be a bit different as the initial sickness of pregnancy disappears and hormonal changes with increased blood circulation to the pelvic region can make your genitals feel full. There may be vaginal discharge or moistness with extra sensitivity in the breasts which can make you feel aroused.
The third trimester can leave you feeling uncomfortable with the big belly and other discomforts like backaches which can dampen your sex drive. In the last trimester, women are more preoccupied with the impending delivery and health of the baby which does not let them concentrate elsewhere.
Many pregnant women will find their sexual drive fluctuating throughout their pregnancy which can be further dampened by the discomforts of having a bulging bump. It is important for couples to understand each others needs and wants.
Men should be supportive and caring for their wives feelings and emotions. There should be an open communication line between the man and woman regarding their sexual relationship which during the time of pregnancy can have different expressions of intimacy like cuddling, kissing and even physical stimulation. Try sex positions which are comfortable for both of you.
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