Boy loves girl. Girl loves boy. They get married and live happily ever after. A love marriage, which is the wedding of two individuals based upon mutual commitment, is not an easy thing in India. You don't just marry the boy/girl in India, you marry their entire family. Cultural differences can get in the way of a wedlock. In such a scenario, the match is more of an agreement of the both set of parents.
2 States, a recently released Abhishek Verman film which is based on Chetan Bhagat’s ‘2 states’ novel, gives an account of such a situation. It is a love story of Ananya Swaminathan (Alia Bhatt), a south Indian girl and Krish Malhotra (Arjun Kapoor), a north Indian boy. They try to make their parents know that they love each other and since the two families had different perspectives based on culture and geography, the couple had to win the hearts of their partner's parents.
If you are caught in a similar situation, here’s what you can do.
Meeting your girlfriend's parents can be nerve-wracking. To give it your best shot, you must do the following.
When meeting your boyfriend's parents, you must prepare ahead of time. Keep in mind the following.
The complication here is that the person you’ve chosen for yourself is not your parent’s choice and they want you to marry the person of their choice. It becomes quite a difficult task because of the differences over caste, culture and sometimes, religion. And this keeps you oscillating between his love your and parents.
Culturally dissimilar families are difficult to convince and parents are still conservative when it comes to matters of the heart and marriage. It becomes necessary to spend time getting to know his/her family. You should always be aware of culture differences, so look for a common ground. Identify similar values, preferences and interests with your partner’s family. Show willingness to understand your partner’s culture, and demonstrate love and respect for each other’s family.
While cultural differences can put forth certain challenges, these challenges are certainly manageable if you are able to put across a message to their parents that you are the right person to marry their child.
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