Cheap tabloids and celebrity gossips can make go one big-eyed with idol worship and make another turn their nose up with complete disregard to the updates of the life of the rich and the famous. However, whether you love ‘em or hate ‘em – you certainly can’t ignore them, especially if you are dating a celebrity yourself!
It may be a casual affair, or it may get serious – though whether you want it or not, you are thrust into a swirling vortex of a platform constantly under the surveillance of cameras and fans. After all, dating a celebrity means you are by default an honorary mini-celebrity yourself!
Now, whether you appreciate it or not depends on whether you like a private or public life. And that is only about the outside world. You get to get under the skin of that enigmatic person you hear about in the papers, or watch in the television. How different are they really – or how similar?
You may be a non-conformist intellectual or a starry-eyed fan – though when you are dating a celebrity, there are some important things you need to watch out for –
The Alter Ego – They may be ‘larger than life’ on the screen – though you need to understand – they are just human after all.
Do not always trust the tabloid’s stereotyping of the person as brash, or wild – or whatever it is they cook up to sell their ware like hot cakes. Get to know the person yourself.
Expert speaks: They may turn out to be completely different – for better or for worse. For in the field they are, some may need regular ego massages to keep them on their confident tracks. If you think you cannot always stand by the fences cheering them on – for bigger the stars, bigger the shadow they cast – you might want to re-think your celebrity relationship.
Lights, Camera, Action – Your celebrity beau can probably take you to a lot of private clubs and places where you can spend alone-time together – so necessary for a sane relationship; however you might have to forego the simple pleasures of life, like going to your favourite ice-cream parlour for some butterscotch or taking a walk at the park.
Expert speaks: You can do all those, as long as you don’t mind people coming over for pictures and autographs of your prominent partner. And there is no use getting offended with them either – that is the price they pay for their fame, after all!
The Time Factor – Another price paid for celebrity status – a mind-boggling and hectic schedule. Booking tickets for some event one week in advance may not pay off always if your partner has to suddenly kiss you goodbye for a couple of days.
Of course, this is something you would have to face anyway with a partner who is a doctor, or in the armed forces.
Expert speaks: With a celebrity it is ironically different because your friends may assume that you are the luckiest one to be going around with a celebrity – whereas you are sitting at home cooling your heels because you just had to cancel your weekend plan.
While tasting the ambrosia of heaven – it is necessary to keep in mind that one is still an earthling. If the glitz and glamour rub off on you and you yourself put on airs – the value your partner assigned to your relationship is compromised. Getting stuck in a purgatory of your otherwise normal life and your partner’s celebrity life is definitely a hell in itself! So, keep your head tightly screwed on if you are going to date a celebrity.
Expert speaks: Just concentrate on dating a star with some semblance of sanity, shall we?
Expert inputs are by a Delhi-based fashion designer Mandira Wirk.