"Talking to my son used to be easy, but now that he's 16, it's difficult for me or my husband to know what he thinks. He isolates himself in his room and barely speaks to us!"
"At one time, my children were eager to hear whatever I had to say. They soaked it all up! Today, as teenagers, they think that I'm out of touch with their world."
If you are raising an adolescent, you are likely to come across the same thoughts or situation. In the past, conversation with your child may have flowed like a two lane highway, but now it seems that the road is blocked. "When he was a child, my son used to bombard me with questions," said a mom. "Now, I'm the one who has to initiate conversation. If I don't, days might pass without any meaningful discussion." Like this mom, you have perhaps also found that your once expressive child has changed into a sullen adolescent. All efforts to have a conversation may elicit only terse replies. "How was your day?" you ask your son. "Fine," he quickly answers with no follow up. "What happened at school today?" "Nothing," she says with a shrug - and trying to jump start a conversation with "why don't you talk more" is met with stoney silence.
Of course, some adolescents have no problem in speaking up, but it's not always what the parents want to hear. Many a times, inquiries are met with "Leave me alone!" Trying to communicate with an unresponsive adolescent can test a parent's patience.
What are the ways to break down the barriers if your adolescent seems reluctant to talk?
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