Well-mannered children are noticed instantly and attract a lot of attention by the virtue of their conduct. Therefore, it is mandatory for parents to teach their child good manners as they grow up, and guide them to behave decently while interacting with the outside world.
Reports from the Public Agenda Research Group (2004) reveal an astonishing fact. According to the research, lack of polite behaviour and courtesy has been turning out to be a national problem in the US. Expert psychiatrist Dr. V Kumar comments, “Undisciplined actions and rude behaviour of kids may lead to social embarrassment and fetch undesirable complaints from school. If the kid gets stamped as spoilt or indecent, he will be left secluded and can become a prey for depression.”
Diya Chaturvedi was a pampered kid since she was a toddler. When she started going to school, she faced a lot of adjustment problems with her school mates and the schedule. Speaking of Diya’s childhood years, Diya’s mother recalls, “We were called to school very often as some of Diya’s teachers faced problems tackling her.” Diya is not a sole example. Many parents face this problem, but few realize that practicing simple habits at home can be beneficial in making children well-mannered:
- Start teaching as early as possible: Teaching good manners can be initiated from the kid’s 3rd birthday. As they start imitating and learning at that age, use this opportunity to teach them good manners. Show them where to keep the plates after eating and teach them to keep their toys in an organized manner.
- Pay attention: Always pay attention to your kid’s words and practice free conversation with him. This will help him to express his feelings.
- Preach what you practice: Always remember that kids follow their parents blindly. If you are polite in your attitude, your kid will follow that for sure. You can set good examples by saying “hello”, “Thank you” to your child. Use the words “excuse me”, “sorry”, “please will you help me” and encourage him to follow so. Appreciate your child heartily when he uses these words or follows polite gestures in proper situations.
- Don’t shout and yell: Don’t get upset with your kids’ simple mistakes and start yelling. Your kid will follow that for sure. Explain his fault and keep a watch on him to avoid repetitions.
- Don’t use bad words: Watch your words. Never utter slang or other abusive languages when kids are around. They will pick up those words instantly and use them in any social gathering creating an embarrassing situation for you.
- Teach politeness: Teach your kids to address newly introduced persons as “Hello Sir” or “Hello Madam” in a polite manner. This will help them to overcome shyness and present themselves in an acceptable manner.
- Showing respect to elders: When the kid steps out for school, teach him to be respectful to the elders and teachers. Teach him to shake hands with their school mates and others. Guide him to behave properly in public places.
Parents either pamper their kids too much or overdo in teaching manners. It is often tough to strike a balance, as over guidance or disciplinary actions should not destroy the spontaneity and the innocence of the kids.