What Causes Wives to Stray
When Wives Jump in the Sack with a Man who’s not Their Husband
Ever since the inception of marriage, there has been infidelity. Initially, the husbands were the culprits but these days the equation seems to be shifting. When women cheat, it’s often considered a scandal. Never has cheating been as accessible as it is today with infidelity just a click away. So, what's driving wives to stray?
You are Giving Her Little Sex
Let us put it in simple words- women want to feel wanted. If you’re not making her feel that way, she could seek it elsewhere. To keep that spark alive, ask her out on date nights, send her provocative e-mails at lunch, and by all means, don’t let life get in the way of kissing, cuddling and sex.
She Likes to Sow Wild Oats
Life changes like major weight loss, new job, new friends, mid-life crisis, etc could cause the frisky behaviour rear its ugly head. Keep the lines of communication open and she’ll be more likely to talk to you about what’s going on instead of spilling her guts to a stranger in the night.
She Needs a Self-esteem Boost
Sex is a self-esteem booster that makes women feel sexier, more beautiful and more loved. Pay attention to her, ask her questions and don’t hold back on compliments — a little flattery goes a long way with women.
She wants to Avenge Something
When you break her trust, and possibly her heart, she wants to hurt you the same way you wounded and betrayed her. To regain her trust, it’s not enough just to tell her you’re sorry; you have to show her. Actions speak louder than words.
Your Marriage Lacks Intimacy
A house, two-car garage and multiple bathrooms can’t fill the void caused by the lack of intimacy in any relationship. This is what every woman wants. Touching, kissing, cuddling, and communicating- everything has its importance. Women crave it, and she could seek it elsewhere if she’s not getting it at home.
You Neglect and Under-appreciate Her
She is a housekeeper, errand-runner, grocery shopper, babysitter and what not but everyone treats her like a maid- that’s when she could stray. The fact that you spend all your time at work or on the golf course gives her double reason to seek attention elsewhere. You could at least say thanks and share the work around house.
She is Emotionally Deprived
Once you retreat from the relationship, she sees it as a sign that things are through — a breakup is inevitable. So, she’s not really cheating, she’s moving on.
The Sex has no Variety
The same position, same setting! To avoid routine, avoid repetition. Sweep her away for the weekend, make out at the movies, and kiss her for no reason at all. The unexpected adds excitement and prevents adultery.
This is Her Exit Strategy
An affair is the easy way out — or at least that’s how she sees it. Instead of breaking up with you, she cheats on you. That way she doesn’t have to deal with the broken relationship, which is much harder to fix. That’s another reason communication is key.
Her Heart Needs Healing
Because you cheated, she wants to get back at you and give you a dose of your own medicine. Ask for her forgiveness, assure her it will never happen again and suggest couples therapy to help you get through this tough time.